narrow-minded - adjective intolerant, conservative, prejudiced, biased, provincial, petty, reactionary, parochial, short-sighted, bigoted, insular, opinionated, small-minded, hidebound, illiberal, strait-laced
I have a friend whom I have tolerated for years. She fits every description above. She didn't start out that way (or I wouldn't have become friends with her). Over time, she has increasingly become more and more unbearable. She expects everyone to believe exactly as she does or else she doesn't "approve" of them.
I have a friend whom I have tolerated for years. She fits every description above. She didn't start out that way (or I wouldn't have become friends with her). Over time, she has increasingly become more and more unbearable. She expects everyone to believe exactly as she does or else she doesn't "approve" of them.
If you live this way for a very long time, you become entirely self-centered as she has become. I hate walking on eggshells around her. I can't be myself around her because I might offend her. I've been bending over backwards, trying to bite my tongue and do the right thing. I have kept my mouth shut and have been forgiving when she has offended ME with her ignorance. I have changed the topic, skirted the issues, talked about the weather, just to avoid getting into a confrontation with her. Because she attends my church, I see people bowing to her attitude as I have, also trying to do the good "Christian" thing.
Recently I have kindly and gently spoken my mind, not about her personally, but about my opinion on some issues. Suddenly I am the enemy. I am the "hypocrite." I greeted her kindly last time I saw her but I don't know how long I can keep up the facade.
What would you do? I need some advice!
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I have encountered this a lot in my work lately. I find it doesn't really make a difference to argue, but there are times I have to jsut express that I do not agree with something being said. Other than that, I just keep quiet and continue being friendly and polite when I see the people who bug me. It hurts me to be angry with them, not them, and if I am not pleasant then there is really no chance we will ever find common ground. For me, it really comes down to just trying to be the best person I can be, and knowing that I don't have to feel bad for being unnecessarily rude.
"For me, it really comes down to just trying to be the best person I can be, and knowing that I don't have to feel bad for being unnecessarily rude."
You've said it all, Jenn. Thanks for understanding! :o)
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